14th July 2017
I started this ramble back in May and then the world imploded as it seems to do every so often. Trump continues to hang on in there in spite of his own incompetence. May clung onto a government by bribing the DUP when she thought she would win a landslide. Maniacs reaped terror in Manchester and London and then there is the Grenfell disaster. So it almost seems irrelevant to ramble on about Trans issues. But the last few days, I have had motivation.
Life is all good and great in the trans community. I am so proud to identify as a woman who is trans and to be part of the trans community. Trans people can be seen now doing real jobs and doing normal things. They no longer just come out at night when others are fast asleep. You could sort of almost start to think that trans people are actually human. Shock, horror! How will the world cope with these humans running around doing normal things, contributing to society? Some of these humans are even making it into prominent media positions. All is good right? Well it’s a whole lot better for the trans community compared to recent decades but let’s face it. The ‘T’, in LGBT, is still the last taboo. The black sheep (am I allowed to say that anymore?). Many people who are transgender, still have dual identities, they still hide in fear of what might happen to them should they come out. I could throw a load of stats at you about suicides, murders and other stuff but I don’t want this to get all technical and I don’t understand all of the data either.
It can and will be a whole lot better than it even is right now but, like it or not we have some issues to deal with I think.
Being trans is not new. People are slowly gaining courage to come out and I was one of them. We blossom emotionally or at least I have since transition. It’s not a fad. It is also, not common place but the reality is we just don’t know how much of the ice berg is not exposed and how big the trans community actually is or could be. The likelihood however is that the vast majority of people identify quite comfortably in the gender they were assigned with at birth. As it should be. The human race would be in a bit of a pickle if that was not the case eh. Some will say we are screwed anyhow. But for the sake of all the young, not least my own kids and my grandson, I hope not.
There are so many variants of being trans. I am not even going to go there because this blog is not a test for me, you, or a demonstration of my profound knowledge to be technically correct (the reality is I would probably get something wrong as its actually quite complicated). All I will say is that, for me at least, whether you identify (Gender Identity) as a male or female or neither, regardless of how you were registered at birth, or you express yourself as male or female or either (Gender Expression) and therefore present neutrally or somewhere in between, to your identity (Gender Neutral), it is absolutely fine with me as long as you are a good person. However I am not in favour of the removal of all gender labels in society. This I think is fear tactics whipped up by mainstream to create stories that are not stories. Let’s just crack on with being human, doing good things and adding value.
This week, no this year really, there has been a series of shit storms in the media about all things gender. These shit storms are becoming more and more frequent and generally intense, I think primarily because we are doing a bloody good jobs at being human and we are giving people reason to think about the so called norms and the status quo of life. The storms seem to appear out of nowhere. Some prominent socialite or so called media god or goddess, who is looking to increase their profile or just feather their nest will say something controversial. You know it could be anything. These sort of things “trans men or women are not real men or women” or “trans women have enjoyed male privilege and it’s not fair” or “unless you are really transgender, use the loo of your birth gender when out in public” or “what the hell is Gender non binary why the hell does everything have to be gender neutral”. Our media just loves to kick someone when they are up don’t they.
Let me say a little bit about social media. Generally, Twitter, but not exclusively. The same rules apply to other forms. Twitter has been great for me. It has introduced me a world of support and many other people like me. I am not sure I would have got through this without the support or inspiration I have received. These people are just like me. Just humans. The other people on Twitter, the celebrity types are there, primarily for personal gain. They need Twitter. It expands their audience and therefore their ability to earn money, or if they are really good, satisfy their ego. Some of them respond to a message you may send them but generally they are in transmit mode. Then you have the media outlets, there to push their messages and opinion on us. Subliminal messages or controversial messages sometimes written by the celebrity peeps.
So what happens when these socialites speak out? Well we get a ‘shit storm’ that’s what. These normally appear as column inches in tabloid rags or even some morning sofa chat on the TV or radio. I have never known a group rally so fast to protect the community. Truly impressive. But the arguments can turn nasty very quickly. This is scary. The community can turn into a shoal of piranhas once one smells blood. It’s not a pretty site. I eventually reach a point where I think, ‘oh for god sake, just leave the poor person alone’ . They do not deserve my sympathy as generally they are exploiting my kind for their own personal gain. But I absolutely hate what’s happening. It just feels so wrong regardless of our motivation. We have to rise above it. Be better, civil and respectful, even if inside we want to scream. The moral high ground is maintained. As soon as we lose control we cannot win the argument. To support this theory, there was a response published from Ulga Stefania (Owl) who was verbally abused by Piers Morgan and the Good Morning Britain back in May. Owl (and her friend Fox Fischer) have every reason to act like piranhas. Piers was rude in the extreme and allowed them no opportunity to deliver their message. Owl’s response was measured and passive. It carried so much more weight. Huge respect.
I do so hope we can sort this out. We are so close guys. Let’s not fuck it up.
I know my views are not widely agreed with but I feel sort of obliged to write some additional stuff. Sorry.